Tuesday, March 21, 2017

Human Trafficking After Care Home To Host Dinner and Silent Auction Fundraiser

 
Refuge For Women Chicago, who opened it's home in October 2016, is part of a National Non-Profit providing restorative after care to women who have been trafficked and sexually exploited. 

The home which is an undisclosed location in McHenry County serves 4-6 women in a residential setting where residents receiving counseling, life skills and job skills.

It is estimated that in the Chicago area there are 16,000 - 25,000 women and girls sexually exploited each year. 

The fundraiser will help raise the funds necessary for Refuge For Women to help support the newly established home so that these women can have a safe place to heal.

The Dinner and Silent auction fundraiser, “Freedom … Living a New Story,” will be held May 6th at the Boulder Ridge Country Club in Lake in the Hills, IL from 6pm to 9pm.  Special guest will be Julianna Zobrist. 

Tickets to the event are $85 and are available here:
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/refuge-for-women-spring-fundraiser-tickets-31761418257
Registration ends April 28.


For more information about Refuge For Women Chicago please visit their website at http://www.rfwchicago.org/

Wednesday, January 11, 2017

Local Event: Human Trafficking Awareness Seminar

Human Trafficking Awareness Seminar
January 28th at 7:15pm

Purpose:
To raise awareness about the issue of human trafficking and how to protect our children.

Seminar will include:
  • Free screening of "Chosen - The True Story of America's Trafficked Teens." 
  • Chicago Trafficking Statistics
  • How To Protect Our Children
  • Recognizing the Red Flags
  • Resources for Next Steps
  • Special presentation from the States Attorney's office on how the law regarding the use of technology and inappropriate activity affects our children

Target Audience:
Parents, Teenagers, Teachers, Nurses, Counselors, Social Workers, and any other interested persons.

Presenters:
Anti - Human Trafficking Ministry:  Donna Gauthier and Hannah Harrold
McHenry County States Attorney's Office:  Daniel Wilbrant and Patrick Kennealy


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RSVP:
Here to reserve your spot. 

Watch:
View the movie trailer for Chosen Here

Sunday, January 1, 2017

Why Read Books About Human Trafficking?



When I first heard about human trafficking my heart was wrecked, but I didn't know what to do with those feelings or how to get started with making an impact.  I really didn't know a lot about human trafficking so I began by educating myself.  I would read just about anything I could on the topic so I could understand it better.  I wanted to know things like: what causes it, what puts someone at risk, who is at risk, where is it happening, and how does someone overcome this happening to them. As I read, I often wished there was someone I could talk to about what I was reading.  Someone who could help me process some of the feelings I had as I increased my knowledge of what was going on.

Our quarterly book club was birthed out of this desire to connect with others who were passionate about the fight against human trafficking.

Angelina Grimke was one of the first women abolitionists.
In her Appeal to Christian Women of the South she wrote:
If you really suppose you can do nothing to overthrow slavery, you are greatly mistaken. You can do much in every way: four things I will name.

1st. You can read on this subject.
2d. You can pray over this subject.
3d. You can speak on this subject.
4th. You can act on this subject.

I have not placed reading before praying because I regard it more important, but because, in order to pray aright, we must understand what we are praying for;


A great stepping stone to making an impact is to first understand what it is you are facing.  The organization
Truckers Against Trafficking, which is making a huge impact, began after the founder, Kendis Paris, read a book that moved her to action.  I encourage you to click the link and check out their impressive impact statistics.

Each quarter our team hosts a book discussion on a book about human trafficking.  We read the book on our own prior to the discussion date and then we gather to discuss it.  I have really enjoyed this time of fellowship.  It has been a great time to ask questions, to gain a different perspective, and just be with others who understand how you feel.

If you are looking for a way to get involved in the fight against human trafficking hosting or joining a book club is a great way to start.  It doesn't need to be a large group - just a few people who are wanting to learn more. 


January is Human Trafficking Awareness Month so it's great time to learn more about this issue.  Knowledge is the doorway to action and you never know what God will do once your heart has been stirred.  Just ask Kendis. 

If you're looking for a good book on the subject check out this list: Suggested Books.

Wednesday, December 7, 2016

A Place Prepared for Victims of Trafficking

The following is a post I wrote for the Refuge For Women Blog


We walk quietly into the long, rectangular shaped bedroom.  The smell of a fresh coat of paint and new carpet lingers in the air.  There are no curtains on the windows yet and I can see the trees moving softly in the wind.  There are four twin size beds lined against the wall, but there is no other furniture in the room.  As we all find a place to sit or stand in the room I am suddenly overcome with the reality of it all.

Today we are praying through the home that will be our Chicago area Refuge For Women.  I am overwhelmed at the reality that God has provided such a beautiful, spacious home for his precious daughters to heal and be restored.  The reality that these precious daughters will have the opportunity to start over and step into a new life that is good and full of purpose is about to happen and it hits me like a ton of bricks.  As I sit on the bed, my eyes well up with tears.  I can picture these women resting their head on a clean pillow, in a safe room, and surrounded by people who love and care for them. 

I see this room in stark contrast to the reality of where she came from.  I know she probably bounced around from hotel to hotel not sure where she would be from one night to the next.  I know there were probably nights she cried herself to sleep wishing her life could be different.  I know she often felt hopeless, worthless, and unloved.  But here in this room, she will now have a place to call her own.  She can lie down at night free from the fear of physical violence and free from people filling her head with lies about her worth.  I know that some nights will be hard and she may have night terrors and flashbacks of the horrible things that happened to her, but she will now have someone beside her who can comfort her, pray with her, and ease her fear and anxiety.  She will no longer have to turn to drugs to numb herself from the pain.  I know that in the morning she can wake up and choose what she wants to wear that day and not what someone else has chosen for her to wear.

The dining room area hosts a long oval table, but not much else.  There are no chairs around the table, but as we stand there to pray, I imagine the women sitting around the table for one of their classes.  They are hearing, maybe for the very first time, what a healthy relationship looks like.  They are learning the importance of boundaries, what is acceptable, and how they should expect to be treated. I know the life they came from was very different than what they will experience in this home.  Most of the women who come will have grown up in homes filled with dysfunction, drug and alcohol abuse, physical or sexual abuse, or neglect.  They have not had healthy relationships modeled for them and so the way they began to form relationships of their own was skewed by what they had been exposed to.  I know they accepted being treated as “less than” because they had been told so many times that they were unimportant that they actually began to believe that about themselves.

I am overcome by the reality that soon these precious daughters will begin to see themselves in a new light.  The light.  The light of Jesus Christ and how He sees them.  The hard work of healing won’t be easy.  Their days will be long and structured, but they will learn that no matter what their past has been, that they can have a future that is bright and full of hope.   Despite whatever their past held, they will learn that they have a heavenly father that loves them beyond anything they could ever imagine.  He loved them before they even breathed their first breath and nothing can ever separate them from that love. In His eyes, they have infinite worth and value.  He sees them as forgiven, beloved, known, cherished, and accepted.


My heart bursts with joy at the reality that these women will soon arrive and they will soon begin to see themselves the same way that Jesus sees them.  

Sunday, November 6, 2016

Do You Want To Get Well?


 
I could tell the voice on the other end of the line belonged to someone who was tender, broken, and fragile.  She was soft spoken, respectful, and incredibly articulate.  She shared a bit of her story and my heart wept for her.  She had suffered things that no person should ever have to go through.  She doubted her self-worth and why she was even born. 

After telling her about a program she could go to where she could receive healing and unconditional love, there was silence.  Then she began to ask questions. 

o   How will I get food?

o   How do I get there?

o   What if they don’t like me?

o   What about my clothes?

o   How do I know this is for real?

I assured her that all of her needs would be met.  We would make sure she had transportation to get to the safe house and they would give her a safe place to sleep.  The safe house would provide all the food, clothing, and medical she needed all at no cost to her.  She would receive counseling, life skills, and job training.  She wrestled with the idea of what was being offered. She wanted to believe, but it was hard for her to imagine that there might be hope.  At the end of her questions, she began sobbing and said “I know I should go, but it sounds too good to be true. Why would someone who doesn’t even know me want to help me?”

The answer to her question is simple.  Because that’s what Jesus would do.  Jesus went to the broken, the unloved, and the outcast.  He performed miracles because he wanted them to be healed physically, but ultimately to be healed spiritually.

In many ways, my conversation with this young woman reminded me of the lame man in John 5 who was lying near the pools of Bethesda.  This man was helpless and hopeless.  After 38 years of his condition, he had given up hope that he could ever get into the healing waters of the pool. 

When Jesus learned of the man’s condition, he asked simply him, “Do you want to get well?”  Jesus didn’t ask because he wanted to know the answer – he already knows the answer.  He asked so that the man would search his own heart. Did he really want to be healed and accept all that came with it?

Rather than responding with “Yes, I want to get well,” he offered excuses as to why he couldn’t get well.  “I have no one to help me in.  Everyone overlooks my need and moves on without helping me.“  Perhaps this man had been in his condition so long that it was what was comfortable and familiar to him. He now defined himself by his disability and saw no hope that change was possible.  Perhaps he feared change because he knew change was hard.  Perhaps he knew that a new way of life would be unknown and unfamiliar and had decided that staying stuck in the same old rut was easier than learning to walk a new path.

But Jesus doesn’t want us to stay stuck.  He desires for us to break free of all that ails us, holds us back, or chains us to sin.  He tells the man to Get Up!  Don’t stay stuck in your despair.  Pick up your mat!  Pick up everything that has kept you in this position or situation.  Walk!  Walk free from your past and walk into a new life with Christ. 

We reach out to women who are in The Life because we don’t want them to remain hopeless, helpless, and confined to their mat.  We know that if they are willing to surrender, take a step into the unfamiliar and the uncomfortable, that God desires to them to walk into who he created them to be. 

After Jesus had healed the man, he found him and told him to stop sinning.  Now that the man was physically healed he wanted him to be spiritually healed.  To be spiritually well, the man needed to know who Jesus was and all that he offered.  He wanted the man to be whole.

Our desire for the women we reach out to is the same.  We desire for them to leave their mat and be healed, but we ultimately want to point them to Jesus and the healing, peace, and abundant life that only He can offer.

Where is Jesus asking if you want to be well?  Trust that God can help you step off your mat and into his grace.

John 5: 1-15: The Healing at the Pool

Some time later, Jesus went up to Jerusalem for one of the Jewish festivals. 2 Now there is in Jerusalem near the Sheep Gate a pool, which in Aramaic is called Bethesda and which is surrounded by five covered colonnades. 3 Here a great number of disabled people used to lie—the blind, the lame, the paralyzed. [5 One who was there had been an invalid for thirty-eight years. 6 When Jesus saw him lying there and learned that he had been in this condition for a long time, he asked him, “Do you want to get well?”

7 “Sir,” the invalid replied, “I have no one to help me into the pool when the water is stirred. While I am trying to get in, someone else goes down ahead of me.”

8 Then Jesus said to him, “Get up! Pick up your mat and walk.” 9 At once the man was cured; he picked up his mat and walked.

The day on which this took place was a Sabbath, 10 and so the Jewish leaders said to the man who had been healed, “It is the Sabbath; the law forbids you to carry your mat.”

11 But he replied, “The man who made me well said to me, ‘Pick up your mat and walk.’ ”

12 So they asked him, “Who is this fellow who told you to pick it up and walk?”

13 The man who was healed had no idea who it was, for Jesus had slipped away into the crowd that was there.

14 Later Jesus found him at the temple and said to him, “See, you are well again. Stop sinning or something worse may happen to you.” 15 The man went away and told the Jewish leaders that it was Jesus who had made him well.

Wednesday, November 2, 2016

The Invention of Wings Discussion Questions



"To remain silent in the face of evil is itself a form of evil."
(Israel Morris p 194)


Sarah realizes her father is a man who values principal over love.
"We Grimke's do not subvert the institutions and laws by which we live, even if we don't agree with them." (Sarah's Father p 68)

 
“My body might be a slave, but not my mind.  For you, it’s the other way around.”  (Handful p 201)


"Do you think I don't abhor slavery?  Do you think I don't know it was greed that kept me from following my conscience?"  (Sarah's Father p 317)

 


 


The Invention of Wings Discussion Questions
History:
The story of The Invention of Wings is based on the real life story of Sarah and Angelina Grimke, two sisters who were raised in a slave-owning family on a plantation in South Carolina.  Both sisters witnessed the cruelty of slavery and came to despise it at an early age. 
 
1             Were you aware of the role that Sarah and Angelina Grimke played in abolition and women’s rights? Have women’s achievements in history been lost or overlooked? What do you think it takes to be a reformer today?

2.            Did you learn anything about slavery or abolition from reading this novel that you didn't know about it before?  Were you surprised to hear about any of the punishments that were common for slaves, such as the Work House or the one legged punishment?

Objects:
The story includes a number of physical objects that have a special significance for the characters:  Sarah’s fleur de lis button, Charlotte’s story quilt, and the spirit tree.  

3.            Did Sarah's copper bathtub or Handful bathing in it hold any special symbolism?

4.            Charlotte's story quilt is her greatest treasure. Why do you think that is? How does the ability to tell one's own story shape one's identity?

5.            How does the spirit tree function in Handful’s life? What do you think of the rituals and meanings surrounding it?

Relationships
This is also a novel about family relationships and history, particularly as seen through the women in the story.

6.            How is Handful's relationship with her mother similar to Sarah's relationship with her mother? How are they different? In what ways did these other women define who Sarah and Handful became?
 
7.            Kidd portrays an array of male characters in the novel: Sarah’s father; Sarah’s brother Thomas; Theodore Weld; Denmark Vesey; Goodis Grimke, Israel Morris, Burke Williams. Which of these male characters did you find most compelling? What positive and negative roles did they play in Sarah and Handful’s evolvement?

8.            How would you describe Sarah and Angelina’s unusual bond? Do you really believe that Sarah influenced Angelina or might she have shared her same opinions regardless? Do you think either one of them could have accomplished what they did on their own? 

9.            Were you surprised by Charlotte's boldness? What qualities of Charlotte's did you most admire? What words could be used to describe her personality? Do you think some of her choices were stupid? What would you have done in her situation? 

10.          What were the qualities in Handful that you most admired?  How did Handful continue her relentless pursuit of self and freedom in the face of such a brutal system?

11.          Sarah's family's story relies on slavery. Can you relate to her need to break away from the life she had in order to create a new and unknown life in order to live with her personal convictions?  What sort of risk and courage does this call for? 

12.          Were you surprised when Sarah turned down Israel's proposal? Did she make the right decision in doing so? Why or why not? Did Sarah make a sacrifice for her cause or was it not at sacrifice at all? 

13.          Were you surprised by the reactions in the North to the Grimke sisters' speaking tour? Were you aware of how strongly women were limited?

 Ending:
14.          Was Sarah's mother's compromise in the end a good choice or a bad choice? Why do you think she wouldn't completely give in to Sarah's requests?
 

15.          How did you interpret the ending? Was it a happy ending?

 
The Grimke sisters left their family and moved North where they became very active in the abolitionist movement.  Angelina Grimke was the first women to speak in front of a legislative body when she addressed the Massachusetts legislature. As mentioned in the book, she also wrote An Appeal To Christian Women In The South urging Southern white women to embrace the anti-slavery movement and it can be read online Here.

Wednesday, October 19, 2016

The Language of Trafficking



The underground world of sex trafficking has it's own subculture of rules and terminology.  To better understand how this hidden crime operates it helps to know the language used among pimps and others in The Life.   

The following list of key terms used in sex trafficking is published in the book Renting Lacy: A Story of America’s Prostituted Children by Linda Smith.


1. Automatic — A term denoting the victim’s “automatic” routine when her pimp is out of town, in jail, or otherwise not in direct contact with those he is prostituting. Victims are expected to comply with the rules and often do so out of fear of punishment or because they have been psychologically manipulated into a sense of loyalty or love. All money generated on “automatic” is turned over to the pimp. This money may be used to support his concession/phone account or to pay his bond if he’s in jail.

2. Bottom — A female appointed by the trafficker/pimp to supervise the others and report rule violations. Operating as his “right hand,” the Bottom may help instruct victims, collect money, book hotel rooms, post ads, or inflict punishments on other girls.

3. Branding — A tattoo or carving on a victim that indicates ownership by a trafficker/pimp/gang.

4. Brothel (a/k/a Cathouse or Whorehouse) — These establishments may be apartments, houses, trailers, or any facility where sex is sold on the premises. It could be in a rural area or nice neighborhood. Most brothels have security measures to prevent attacks by other criminals or provide a warning if law enforcement are nearby. The security is two sided–to keep the women and children in, as well as robbers out. The places often are guarded (and open) 24 hours a day, but some have closing times in which the victims are locked in from the outside. Victims may be kept in this location for extended periods of time, or rotated to other locations every few days.

5. Caught A Case — A term that refers to when a pimp or victim has been arrested and charged with a crime.

6. Choosing Up — The process by which a different pimp takes “ownership” of a victim. Victims are instructed to keep their eyes on the ground at all times. According to traditional pimping rules, when a victim makes eye contact with another pimp (accidentally or on purpose), she is choosing him to be her pimp. If the original pimp wants the victim back, he must pay a fee to the new pimp. When this occurs, he will force the victim to work harder to replace the money lost in transaction. (See Reckless Eyeballing)

7. Circuit — A series of cities among which prostituted people are moved. One example would be the West Coast circuit of San Diego, Las Vegas, Portland, and the cities between. The term can also refer to a chain of states such as the “Minnesota pipeline” by which victims are moved through a series of locations from Minnesota to markets in New York.

8. Daddy — The term a pimp will often require his victim to call him.

9. Date — The exchange when prostitution takes place, or the activity of prostitution. A victim is said to be “with a date” or “dating.”

10. Escort Service — An organization, operating chiefly via cell phone and the internet, which sends a victim to a buyer’s location (an “outcall”) or arranges for the buyer to come to a house or apartment (an “in-call”); this may be the workplace of a single woman or a small brothel. Some escort services are networked with others and can assemble large numbers of women for parties and conventions.

11. Exit Fee — The money a pimp will demand from a victim who is thinking about trying to leave. It will be an exorbitant sum, to discourage her from leaving. Most pimps never let their victims leave freely.

12. Family/Folks — The term used to describe the other individuals under the control of the same pimp. He plays the role of father (or “Daddy”) while the group fulfills the need for a “family.”

13. Finesse Pimp/Romeo Pimp — One who prides himself on controlling others primarily through psychological manip­ulation. Although he may shower his victims with affection and gifts (especially during the recruitment phase), the threat of violence is always present.

14. Gorilla (or Guerilla) Pimp — A pimp who controls his victims almost entirely through physical violence and force.

15. “John” (a/k/a Buyer or “Trick”) — An individual who pays for or trades something of value for sexual acts.

16. Kiddie Stroll – An area known for prostitution that features younger victims.

17. Lot Lizard — Derogatory term for a person who is being prostituted at truck stops.

18. Madam — An older woman who manages a brothel, escort service or other prostitution establishment. She may work alone or in collaboration with other traffickers.

19. Out of Pocket — The phrase describing when a victim is not under control of a pimp but working on a pimp-controlled track, leaving her vulnerable to threats, harassment, and violence in order to make her “choose” a pimp. This may also refer to a victim who is disobeying the pimp’s rules.

20. Pimp Circle — When several pimps encircle a victim to intimidate through verbal and physical threats in order to discipline the victim or force her to choose up.

21. Quota — A set amount of money that a trafficking victim must make each night before she can come “home.” Quotas are often set between $300 and $2000. If the victim returns without meeting the quota, she is typically beaten and sent back out on the street to earn the rest. Quotas vary according to geographic region, local events, etc.

22. Reckless Eyeballing — A term which refers to the act of looking around instead of keeping your eyes on the ground. Eyeballing is against the rules and could lead an untrained victim to “choose up” by mistake.

23. Renegade — A person involved in prostitution without a pimp.

24. Seasoning — A combination of psychological manipulation, intimidation, gang rape, sodomy, beatings, deprivation of food or sleep, isolation from friends or family and other sources of support, and threatening or holding hostage of a victim’s children. Seasoning is designed to break down a victim’s resistance and ensure compliance.

25. Squaring Up — Attempting to escape or exit prostitution.

26. Stable — A group of victims who are under the control of a single pimp.
The Game/The Life — The subculture of prostitution, complete with rules, a hierarchy of authority, and language. Referring to the act of pimping as ‘the game’ gives the illusion that it can be a fun and easy way to make money, when the reality is much harsher. Women and girls will say they’ve been “in the life” if they’ve been involved in prostitution for a while.

27. Track (a/k/a Stroll or Blade) — An area of town known for prostitution activity. This can be the area around a group of strip clubs and pornography stores, or a particular stretch of street.

28. Trade Up/Trade Down — To move a victim like merchandise between pimps. A pimp may trade one girl for another or trade with some exchange of money.

29. Trick — Committing an act of prostitution (verb), or the person buying it (noun). A victim is said to be “turning a trick” or “with a trick.”

30. Turn Out — To be forced into prostitution (verb) or a person newly involved in prostitution (noun).

31. Wifeys/Wife-in-Law/Sister Wife — What women and girls under the control of the same pimp call each other. (See Family/Folks and Stable.)

(Source: Shared Hope)